- noong bata ako, paborito kong makipag baril-barilan with boys in my neighborhood. i even made my own gun from scrap woods. fave hideout was up the sarisa tree!
- lumipat kami sa sarili naming bahay noong grade 2 ako; all the while i thought kami ang may-ari nung nirerentahan naming bahay sa avenue.
- hindi ako mahilig gumamit ng kumot. except kung maginaw.
- adik ako sa moskitero. hehe. can't sleep without it. at dapat hihigaan ko to.
- i hate mint candies and chocolates with mint. eow.
- i loove hershey's kisses. hid a pitcher of kisses in my closet when i was young.
- i don't crave for junkfoods. kung meron, eh di eat, pag wala, ok lang.
- gusto kung subukang maging dubber ng anime o cartoons (ung mga tagalized especially).
- nag-enroll ako sa bsbio hindi dahil sa gusto ko kundi dahil dun nag-enroll ang two of my HS barkadas. i had no choice then since i wasnt allowed to study in davao. i was too dependent daw. ouch.
- i love milk. and dairy products.
- adik ako ke michael jackson. but did not cry when he died. aw.
- sobrang liit ng handwriting ko that my classmates always complain they cannot copy from me during exams.
- during meetings and seminars, i doodle on my paper or draw the person talking - to battle boredom.
- when we climbed the peak of mt. apo in 2006, sa sobrang ginaw, pinagsisihan ko bakit ako umakyat and wished for a helicopter that instant para sunduin na ako.
- may crush ako na girl nung college that i always look for her in the crowd and parang lumulundag heart ko sa tuwa when i finally see her. ahaha.
- lagi ako late nung highschool at college. at kahit ngaun sa work. takaw-tulog, sobra.
- pinagalitan ako ni christian bautista nung sinabi kong "sex" instead of "cheese" during a photo shoot with him. "how old are you?!" sabi. "23!" hahaha.
- i don't eat kentucky beans. and kalabasa. i so love alugbati.
- i can clean the whole house and wash all the dishes, but hate washing clothes, please! (people always say "wow" when they see me washing my clothes) hehe.
- peyborit palaman sa sandwich: guava jelly! (ung lady's choice na brand, nothing else). heaven on earth, ahaha.
- nung cguro mga 6-7 y.o. ako, we used to blow balloons out of these elastic and colorful latex; which i later realized na condoms pala! haha. eh bakit kc binebenta sa sari-sari store?!
- i do my own manicure and pedicure. na-trauma nung nakita ang kuko ng isang college prof, sobrang lalim at ampangit na kc laging nagpapapedicure. yay.
- sobrang iniyakan ko ang "one more chance" dati. feeling ko relate na relate ako sa character ni bea at sa story. "pwedeng ako na lng uli?!" hehe.
- umiyak ako ng 5 straight hours fr davao city to SF, agusan inside the bus when my niece dinky went home to London that same day :(
- biggest regret: i burned my HS diary during college, afraid that mamang will read it when she started rummaging cleaning my closet . sayang. sayang tlg.
10/04/2009
randomness
8/08/2009
and it was all yellow...
I did not know EDSA history. And the reality belittled me. As I was watching some of the scenes during Cory's funeral and saw the Filipinos in fervor, chanting Cory's name, thanking her, adoring her, I started understanding the yellow plague. Cory Aquino was indeed a somebody, a somebody worth dying for, a somebody worthy of the outpouring admiration from people from all walks of life. The President of East Timor waited for 7 hours at the Memorial Park to bid his final farewell to a friend. That for me is humility, one virtue the President claims he acquired from Cory.
In 1986 at 5 years old, I was too young to be bothered by revolutions, insurgencies and uprisings. Pathetic excuse i just realized. It was shameful that i didn't even know what the L sign means. A classmate who claimed he had made Cory smiled twice during her presidency needed to tell me that L stands for Laban. All because i didn't know EDSA history.
Last Tuesday, I got hold of a 1986 issue of The Philippine Star which featured the then-President Cory Aquino's speech in the US State Congress. My landlady has kept it in her magazine rack for 23 years! She was one of those thousands of people in EDSA on that fateful day in 1986. "Patay kung patay!" she said were the words coming from the mouths of Filipinos who came out into the streets armed with nothing but bruised hearts and wounded souls. Hungry for democracy, angry at oppression. I was so ecstatic as i held a piece of history in its tattered and torn out form. Cory' speech was said to have set the House on fire as the members of the Senate and the house of Representatives "applauded lustily 13 times, with two prolonged standing ovations". This and all other clippings from the EDSA Revolution, first hand accounts from my landlady Ate Ai, and the information from the world wide web, made me no longer ignoramus of this historical event. But of course, there are still more to know and to learn. I told a college-mate who commented my post in FB about Cory's greatness this: "siempre we were too young to understand EDSA Revo then. but it aint an excuse. coz as they said, younger generations need to know the country's history so they can help in solving the country's problems. natamaan ako dun, wapaak!" hehe. I got that line when researching for what the abbreviation ATOM stands for. It's August Twenty One Movement! (*grins).
On a lighter note, in addition to the songs written and sung for Cory, i am also dedicating a song for her. It is Coldplay's Yellow. The lyrics are perfect for the country's star that has shone upon us even at her death.
Look at the stars,
Look how they shine for you,
And everything you do,
Yeah they were all yellow,
I came along
I wrote a song for you
And all the things you do
And it was called yellow
So then I took my turn
Oh all the things I've done
And it was all yellow
7/26/2009
1981
according to pap, mamang started to labor past midnight. but because she doesn't want to go to the hospital, she stayed at home instead. before 3:00 am, papang went out to fetch the friendly-neighborhood komadrona. but even before they arrive, i was already saying hello to the world! the komadrona had to only cut my umbilical cord and clean me up.
pap said that mam did not feel a lot of pain giving birth to me. she even said "ansarap umere". you see, she seemed just blown a big fart, came out baby me and breathed a sigh of relief...
ayon, i was joking my siblings that "inutot lang pala ako ni mamang". hehe.
me and pap; in fairness, mataba ako nung baby pa, hehe.
if mamang is alive, i would be hearing this story straight from her. and today, i would ask her to tell me that story again. on how she had blown a big fart, came out baby me and breathed a sigh of relief...
okay, okay, no tears today! it's my birthday, ahehe :)
bulilit, bulilit
btw, along with this story is my question to papang "saan galing pangalan ko?" He just shrugged his shoulders and offered the best answer he could think of - from a milk's brand name which was famous back then! Not that i didn't know that. But recently, i stumbled upon a Nora Aunors' movie entitled BONA; incidentally, that film was released in 1981, the year i was born. Hmm, so there goes the inspiration for my name, huh. Maybe that movie made mamang cried a bucket of tears that is why she named me after its protagonist. but ahm... i think id rather be associated with a milk than with ms. nora aunor, ahehe. id rather live with the tagline "batang may laban" than with "walang himala!". lol.
5/22/2009
Careless
ok, sino pa kayang tao dito sa Pilipinas ang hindi nakakaalam sa katrina-hayden kho scandal... araw-araw ay halos nasa tv, dyaryo, radyo, internet, tsismis... the issue is so "sizzling hot" (borrowing dr. hayden's comment to katrina in one of the videos) that everyone has something to say. nakakatawa nga kasi, the authorities will say "wag niyo na pong tangkilikin o panoorin ang mga ganitong klaseng video", eh sila nga i'm sure napanood din nila, nyahaha.
pero sa tingin ko, ang dapat sisihin sa pagkalat ng videos na ito ay hindi ang mga taong nanaood dito o namirata/ nagpakalat nito... kundi ang media, sino pa nga ba!? tama bang ipangalandakan sa front page ng newspapers (PDI in yesterday's ish) at sa national TV prime time news programs ang snapshots (prinint screen ata) ng sex videos na siempre ginawang blurred para hindi ma-MTRCB at para kunyari wholesome pa rin. hindi nga ba ang tao, hindi tumatangkilik ng isang bagay kung hindi naman niya ito nakikita (what do you think are the advertisements/ patalastas for). so ngayon, dahil sa nakita ng tao sa tv at newspaper na talagang may video nga, eh ang tendency, mas lalo niya itong tatangkilikin. hello, simpleng logic. dapat hindi na nila (tv and print) papakita ang mga blurred pictures na yan. these only tickle the imagination of the viewers/ readers. these only arouse the interest of the audience. nakakainis. ay oo nga pala, siempre human interest ito, mas mabebenta sa tao mga ganitong issue kaya todo sakay ang media.
ito pa isang nakakainis, bakit nga ba mas uunahin pa ng mga Senators na pag-ukulan ng time (at privilege speech) ang mga ganitong issue. duh. you are not helping katrina and the other women or children na naabuso umano sa mga kalaswaang ganito. mas lalo lang adding insult to injury. puwede ba, manahimik na alng kayo at gumawa na lang ng batas (against internet porno, sex videos and the like...) at ipatupad; at hindi mag-aantay ng human interest stories/ issues na sasakyan niyo lang. para tuloy mas lumalabas kayong tsismoso kesa sa amin eh.
katrina, hindi ko pa napapanood ang sex video mo. wala naman akong access dun. yun nga lang, nagka-LSS na ako sa Careless Whisper na yan. hehe.
5/12/2009
Goin' Bulilit!
Sanay sa masikip
Kung kumilos kumilos
Kay liit liit.
Bulilit
Kung kumilos
Kay liit liit.
5/07/2009
Samu't sari
- i am dying to see x-men origins: wolverine on big screen. bakit kasi ala matinong sinehan dito sa cotabato city. tuloy kelangan ko pang dumayo ng davao city. ang tanong kelan? at worth it bang bumiyahe ng limang oras para lamang makita ang adamantium ni Logan?
- was speechless when i heard juday's wedding march. "Runaway" is my dream wedding march! waah naunahan ako. sad. tsk tsk.
- so happy with minilyrics (tnx poi). puwede ko nang sabayan ang mediaplayer. ahehe. instant videoke sa pc.
- i so love katy perry's "Thinking of You". and the video, galing. The Notebook ang effect. tried so hard to play the song in the guitar. TH kaayo ;(
- speaking of gitara, bumalik interes ko to learn. promised a friend to teach him the basics. ahaha, di lang nahiya, di naman magaling, magtuturo na.
- my cellphone doesn't work! heck, have no plans of buying a new one pa naman...
- i am addicted to Facebook's quizzes. mas nakikilala ko sarili ko. nalaman ko na ako talaga ay may multiple personality disorder at ang superpower ko ay telepathy at ang 6th sense ko ay clairvoyance! haha.
- my supervisor said today that i am her answered prayer. shucks. natakot tuloy ako. baka madisappoint siya at pagsisihan nyang ipinagdasal niya akong makasama sa work. i hate disappointing people pa naman. it disappoints me!
- tuwang-tuwa ako ke aling dionesia, hehe. loves to see her on TV and read her in the news (bumile ako ng damit para isuksok ko sa bertdey ko...). i know a very funny tsismis about her, haha.
- may nickname na ako para sa future pamangkin ko if ever babae siya - ARWEN :) from Arkhe and Wendy's name. cool diba? ung princess ng Elven sa LOTR.
- missed billiards! tama, yayayain ko si best next week.
- parang gus2 ko ulit magkeep ng diary. marami kasi mga bagay na gusto ko isulat na hindi puwede dito sa blog... secrets, hmmm.
- for me, there is nothing wrong with martin's rendition of Lupang Hinirang. sorry NHI, pero oa lang kau. tama, mas importanteng feel na feel mong pinoy ka habang kinakanta niya un. I love martin's statement: "i sang it like it was the last song i'll ever sing". hahay, you can never please everybody jud.
- one of my boardmates teases me of being "swerte sa lovelife". aw. knock on wood! hehe (basi mabuyagan).
- Kiko Machine and Pugad-Baboy comics strips are my everyday comic relief providers. officemates always say "katawa lagi ka?" since di ko napipigilang humagighik sa sobrang babaw na humor (note to myself: buy KM comic books).
4/29/2009
Summer 2009
4/10/2009
a blog for mama...
exactly ten years ago today, someone that is a big part of me bid her final farewell. she was only 42 years old. she was a teacher by profession but decided to leave her family in 1992 to work as a domestic helper in hongkong and taiwan. in december 1998, she finally went home for good and supposedly in june 1999, she will resume her teaching career. her former school and her former colleagues were already waiting for her.
but it never happened. once again she bid farewell. but this time, there will never be reunions, there will never be coming back home, there will never be balikbayan boxes, there will never be an Editha Salcedo Buyco Hilario again.
ten years...but the pain is still there. grabe, ansakit pa rin. as i am writing this, i couldn't stop the tears to trickle down my cheeks; ansikip ng dibdib ko. ten years of crying alone, ten years of secretly wiping my tears that freely flow down my cheeks whenever i remember her in public, ten years of dreaming of her and waking up crying. ten years of wishful thinking that she is still alive. ten years… but I do still hope that someone will pinch me or punch me and wake me up from the nightmare...
april 10, 1999. our family’s on the way to mamang’s hometown where a fiesta awaits us. i still remember the last conversation we had inside that car; mamang was asking me if i do like bsbiology (I was in my first year of college then); she was worried that i was only pressured to enroll in that course since they didn't let me enroll at davao city and pursue bsmasscom. i just shrugged and kept quiet and mom just told me 'puwede ka pa rin naman magshift kung gusto mo"...
…and then i woke up in a hospital bed. puzzled and nauseous, i looked around the room and saw macoy in a chair beside me. i asked him the obvious, “nasaan ako?”, “nasa ospital kayo”, “anong nagyari?”, “nadisgrasya kayo”, “ha? nasaan sina papang?”, “nasa kabilang kwarto”, “ah ok”…then retreated to sleep, not the slightest idea that that the accident we've met was so tragic it would change our lives forever. it must be the drugs they gave me that i couldn’t remember how many hours or days i have fallen asleep. when I woke up again, it was Nanay (mamang’s mother) i saw beside my bed. i noticed that we were in another room and that there were many people inside that room, mamang’s sisters and some relatives. when Nanay suddenly burst into tears, i asked her, “bakit?”, “Wala na mama niyo…”. it took me a while to comprehend just what she said and just stared blankly at her. i only started crying when the people in the room started to cry.
of all my siblings, it was our youngest whom we last broke the sad news of mamang’s death. he was asking us one time if where is mamang and why is she not visiting us in the hospital. fighting back tears, i lied and told him that mamang returned to taiwan to work so we can pay for our hospital bills. but weeks after and still in the hospital, together with my siblings, we finally told him that mamang already left us. “Anong iniwan?”, “Iyon ngang nasa ilalim na siya ng lupa”. i did not need explain further because ige already cried. We all cried. (wait, break muna, umiiyak na naman ako…)
mamang missed my college graduation; she could have seen me finish my bsbiology degree although I did not like it from the start. she even missed my debut which we were planning months ahead before the accident. she told me, “ako magtatahi ng gown mo” and showed me the fabric she will use. but then there was no gown; and the fabric remained as it is. sadly, i did not have a chance to bond with mamang very well. she was abroad for more than six years and she was away even before i started reaching puberty; she was not there when i had my first mens and my brothers teased me when i started crying when i saw the blood on my shorts. mamang was away most of the time during the special and awkward moments of my life. but i did not blame her for that. i never questioned why she need to work as a domestic helper when in fact she is a teacher. i used to think that mamang and i were not closed and that it is my kuya that she is fond of the most. but it was okay for me, because i believed that papang is also more fond of me than my kuya. quits lang.
today i wonder how does mamang looks like when she is still alive. she will be 52 years old by then. is she strict? I remembered her being masungit. would i be working in NGOs if she is still alive? she must have advised me to follow her profession. would i be married by now? baka hindi un papayag na umabot ako ng 27 na hindi pa nag-aasawa. would she also be blogging just like arkhe and me? mamang's a good writer and i believe that i got the skills from her. if she is still alive, would i tell her my secrets? would i tell her my heartaches? would she cope for those years that she missed during my adolescence? would we bond like no other mag-ina does? a lot of endless questions; i know arkhe, macoy, denden and ige also have theirs...
Ten years… but i still ask God why…
4/09/2009
clueless.
4/07/2009
wallpaper
3/30/2009
the bunso graduates...
3/27/2009
color it red.
3/10/2009
inhaling positivity +++
- Me as an NGO worker. I am so thankful that fate brought me into this career path. I am particularly proud of my NGO roots (and the people i worked with) which until now kept me grounded and humbled me enough on what a true-blooded community development worker really is. Penetrating the NGO Community in Cotabato City brought a minor culture shock to me. Comparison from my past to present is endless. And this is what i realized: I will never trade the colorful (a lot of rainbows and a lot of black) experiences i gained from my previous NGO works to a four-digit per diem you can spend a lot of pastil (Muslim delicacy) with or to a pajero that can comfortably (minus dust and smoke) bring you to the community. Nothing beats the habal2 (improvised motorcycle that can carry up to 5 passengers) or the rural buses a.k.a sardine cans, harhar.
- Me as a frustrated an artist. Lol. I want to say frustrated since for my 27 years of existence, I have not yet brought into this world any obra maestra that can attest to my claim as an artist. lol. I do claim that i am an artist. If loving colors, envying great artists, trying on arts, hobbies and crafts, flipping through architectural digest and interior design magazines, doodling on papers, frequenting photos/paint exhibits make you an artist, then i am. And oh, if receiving an award as a School Artist and winning poster/slogan making contests in elementary make you An Artist, then yeah, i really am! Lol. I am thankful for this talent, sans obra maestra. I am thankful for my inclination to arts, that i get to appreciate life and this world in different hues!
- Me as a writer. I can write yeah, but not as good as my favorite writers and columnists . But I still thank God i can. A few is gifted with a talent to write. And i prided myself that although there are things i still need to learn in proper writing, i can write my thoughts down, anywhere, anyhow. Oh well, maybe God knows that i am generally shy and will lose in any oral debates, so He gave me the power to write. I kinda more like it, since writings can be immortalized. This blog entry will forever roam the cyberworld if bits and bytes permit :) One comment on my writing i would never never forget is this: "If i will have to get somebody to write a children's book, it will be you". Honestly, i did not understand what she meant, even until now. But i took it as a compliment, nonetheless. Hehe.
- Me as a student. Not all people are given the chance to go back to school, not even through distance learning. But i am. Through UP's open university, i get to pursue a Diploma in (drum rolls...) Environment and Natural Resources Management. Hehe. I do not dream to replace Secretary Atienza, not ever. But i do dream to have a share in saving our Mother Earth. And i thought that by enrolling in this course will be the first step to realizing that dream. Thank God that I have managed to get over four hurdles este subjects and still have four to go. I hope that by then, i have already started a campaign that has helped in reducing the carbon emissions that contribute to global warming. Or something like that. Because global warming is a global problem that needs global actions, my contributions would be just a speck in the universe. But i say, at least. Our planet earth has other alarming issues aside from Global Warming, what else do you know? What are you doing aside from sitting on your butt and complaining how hot the climate is or how dirty your surrounding is? What??!! (...and the campaign has started).
- Me being me. There is so much to be thankful to God for making me into who i am now. I am farrrrrrrr from perfect, but i am no nobody. It once entered my mind that i have a mild condition of schizophrenia, with a split personality disorder that is. But of course, i am just trying to be cute (not that schizophreniacs are cute) and scientific. Anyway I am trying to say is that despite the unstable personality that i believe i have, majority of the people in my circle still love me or like me. Ahehe. After all, i am a nice person. Thank God :)
Admittingly, exorcising the negativities in me is so hard to sustain. Especially that for everyday in my life at the moment, i have to endure pesky colleagues, and damn office systems. But still, I am thankful that i have been trying...
Now, close your eyes and inhale positivity (for whatever that means hehe).
2/19/2009
exorcising negativity.
I always complain about school and work. I always complain that i have truckloads of assignments and quizzes which after all is always my fault why they piled into truckloads when in fact, right at the beginning of the semester, the questions are already given to us. And that every night of my life, i only stared at the sets of questions and crammed one hour before deadlines.
I always complain about work and some of the people i work with. When in fact i should be thankful that i am meeting a lot of people each day, earning friends, learning new experiences. No matter how irritating people are, i should be thankful that i am learning from them, learning to lengthen my patience, that is.
So for this entry, i will write things that i am thankful for everyday of my life (it ain't original i know but still want to do it, hehe :)
- Best. he is the ever-patient, ever-loving, ever-always-there boyfriend- bestfriend. For nine years, he never left my side despite shooing him away many times. Maybe God has answered an innocent prayer from ten years ago.
- The Hilarious. we lose our mom ten years ago, we quarreled, we shouted at each other, my family is far from perfect. but thank God for them. We will always be hilarious, lovin' life, sharing jokes over dinner, arguing over trivial facts, fighting over a videoke mic.. (and the list of good things goes on...).
- Magic 12. my best girlfriends. fourteen years of friendship and counting. Some i know since elementary and kinder. we do not see each other often anymore - careers, husbands and kids "prohibit" us from doing so - but in our hearts, we are always the same high school girls who love to giggle, laugh our hearts out, share secrets, play shatong at school.
- Arfs. magic's best boy-friends. with them, we lose our innocence, in a good sense. they showed us a wider world, the reality of life. we did not need join frats to share brotherhood/sisterhood. boys will always be boys. but us to them, they can make exceptions.
2/12/2009
I am STRENGTH.
You are Strength
2/03/2009
When i say new, it means...
- staying in a boarding house...
(first time in my 27 years! i studied until college in my hometown so there was no chance to board and i stayed in a staffhouse during my past works, 2 - butuan city, 2 - davao city, 1 - san franz, and these were entirely for free! water, electric, gasul... ;)
- having to commute to and fro work EVERYDAY...and having to inhale all the dust and smoke from jeepneys...
(urgh. our offices in my past works were just beside our staffhouse, or sometimes we live in an office cum staffhouse, so grabeng tipid sa fare, you can save your coins in a piggybank, u can never be late pa).
- having to write in a logbook in and out of the office (8am-in, 5pm-out)...
(i think it is a government style and i never thought some NGOs also has this system - like my present office do. duh, for a takaw-tulog person like me, it is such a punishment to wake up at 6.30 am para hindi ma-late, waaah).
- having an office that has no speakers in the personal computers!!!
(waaahaha, when i first came in the project, the silence of the office was the first thing i noticed... you can only hear the rustles of the paper being printed, the footsteps of the staff scurrying around, but there was no music, hahaha.. i thought our office was so dull, there were no tv, no radio, ewan, hindi lng ako nasanay. What i did was brought my own headset, beh).
- eating alone during dinner...
- for me, this is the saddest part. since i don't cook and only eats in a carenderia, i eat alone. my housemates whom are also NGO workers sleep early or come home late so we cannot join each other for dinner. But mostly, i brought my food in the boarding house so i can chat with my landlady while eating, hehe).
- being cautious and vigilant when i am in town...
(no need for explanation. i am here in cotabato city, where street crimes are normal rampant and snatching/hold-ups happen to your immediate friends, yay, scared. So, when i have to buy groceries, i have to get out at 5pm para hindi ako magabihan sa daan... kainis tuloy, i can't stay longer at McDo and chill at their veranda dahil takot mahold-up, aysus palayo!).
- having to work with City Government partners...
(i hope they won't read this hahaha. working with personnel from the city govt is such a sakit ng ulo. it delays our work, our deliverables. You can't decide solely unless it is agreed/disagreed by them. we coordinate with them regularly because the project is a partnership - nakakalokang partnership. they are too busy with their own job description at the city government and most of the time ay nakakaligtaan nila ang responsibility nila with the project. hello? may duration po ang project at pati kami at hindi kagaya sa gobyerno that you can stay in your office forever until retirement, puhleeze).
- working in an office that has the strictest standards and systems of all...
(sometimes i can't see the logic, say in a system...but my supervisor says, of course you can't see because there is none. hahaha, that explains all).
- being far from my Best (hehe siningit...)
(uu, kc with the two previous projects/works i had, mgksama kmi ni best - mga 3 years din un when we used to see each other 24/7, so i had a hard time getting him out of my system when i got this job, whew, that's life...should work uy).
Now i wonder, will i still be here for another three months? If i would, i wonder what made me stay (hahaha) and if i don't, tsk, tsk, kawawa naman si ma'am estela, my supervisor, at maiiwan siyang nagtityaga sa project at sa mga partners... Don't get me wrong, i have a big heart for our project since i am a self-proclaimed environmentalist. and i believe na malaki ang significance ng project sa problema sa basura ng Cotabato City. Sigh, it's just that some of the brains of our stakeholders are filled with basura na rin. Nangangaamoy na sila sa baho. eeow.